It is definitely no news again that we are in the era of baby mamas; when single parenting is being gradually worked into the norm of the society. Men are starting to relieve themselves of the claws of marriage and women are obviously not affected by it as they are more than pleased to follow suit.

To many people, being a single parent is like eating your cake and still having it. You get to raise kids and aspire to have a name in the society all at once. Back in the days, people became single parents mainly as a result of the death of a spouse. In tough cases, people severe ties with their partners in serious divorce suits and take sole responsibility for the kids involved.

It is rather unfortunate that people are no longer willing to pay attention to the benefit of growing up with a family. Many think they could substitute money for the love a child would experience growing up with a well formed family.

Irrespective of all these, there are questions you should get ready to answer as a single mum or sponsoring single dad. People around would ask you and you might as well think of the answers you would give when your child starts to question you.

These questions require some critical review that would give you an insight into the next line of action that you should take as a single parent.

Check out some of these questions:

1. Are you a responsible individual?

You may not necessarily need to be asked this in person, but if you are someone who understands body language then you would get to know the way the society sees single parents.

The initial stage is of course the most difficult time. This is when people start to form their opinion about you. Another time it becomes important is when you aspire for certain positions in the society and you are judged based on that.

2. When your child wants to know the other parent

This is a difficult time for most people. As much as you have rehearsed that scene in your head, you would still end up choking on your words when the time is right.

It is not only fair that you made the decision to be a single parent for both you and the child, the child may prefer being with the other person and may hate you if you do not act the right way.

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3. When you are being asked why you are not married

It is a major blow for many people when they are being asked why they have kids without being married. What moral values do you want to preach to your growing up child about the need to do things the proper way?

Heaven bless your soul if your child retorts and asks you why you probably did not think that way when you parted your legs for some guy.

4. When your child wants to know the definition of a 'bastard'

Maybe it would be advisable for you to drink lots of water before answering this question. Children of this generation are smarter than you think they are. So you should pick your words carefully when they ask you this. Remember what kids born outside wedlock are being referred to?

5. Do you plan being a single parent all your life?

Perhaps, you became a single mum by accident or that annoying girlfriend of yours wanted to trap you into marrying her by getting pregnant; for how long do you plan to bear the single parent tag? Will this affect your future plans?

Will you get married to the other parent for the sake of your child or will you continue to live with that trend?

6. Do you know the difference between liking kids and raising them?

So you are ready to start dating again. Your kid has started school and you suddenly have all the time in the world to get on with your life. Do not assume a person would make a responsible mum or dad for your kids just because they get along.

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It is easy to play Anna in Frozen with kids or become Spiderman for a couple of minutes. Will your potential suitor be able to raise your kid as a father? Will she be a good mum to your child? Finding the perfect match is not all about you again.

7. Will there be other kids?

Do you have the desire to have other children? Will they be from different men and women also? You should think about the relationship these children would build in the nearest future when you want to start a polygamy trend.

Source: Legit.ng

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